Everything can feel confusing after a messy breakup. Not only are emotions all over the place, but navigating the dating world is also incredibly tricky. But if you feel like it’s time to put yourself back out there, then that’s absolutely what you should do. Here are some tips to help you on your journey.
Let’s Reflect
Before you start dating again, take some time to consider what you want and don’t want in a partner. Consider this list ongoing as you begin meeting new people.
Allow Yourself Time to Heal
As you process your feelings and meet new people, check in with yourself. There will be good and bad days. Just remember: Progress is not linear.
Stop Comparing
Regardless of how long you were in your last relationship, it’s important that you don’t compare things to how they used to be. Be present as you go on dates, and remember that things with your ex ended for a reason – no matter how romantic some of your memories may be.
Go Slow
Hey, you don’t have to be engaged by date number three. Love is a marathon, not a sprint, after all. There is no shame in taking things slow, especially after a messy breakup. Get to know people you’re interested in, and when the right person comes along, you can decide to commit.
Need-to-Know Basis
Unless you’re officially in a relationship and discussing how past relationships have shaped you, there is no reason to bring up your ex or breakup. This can be extremely off-putting. Save this talk for when you can both learn and bond from the conversation.
Be Realistic
Real life is not a Lifetime movie! You will go on good and bad dates, and it’s all part of putting yourself out there. Don’t let movies and TV shows make dating feel less magical because your experience doesn’t live up to those perfect Hollywood expectations.
Be Yourself
If you are nothing but your authentic self, then rest assured, you will find someone who will like you for you.