Common Myths About the Female Climax

The ever-elusive female orgasm is shrouded in mystery. While this is in part due to the fact that some women haven’t experienced an orgasm, this mysteriousness can also be attributed to a lack of knowledge regarding them, or the overall difficulty in achieving them. Regardless of the reasoning, myths are plentiful, so we took the time to bust a few of the most common for you.

Myth: Masturbation Affects Your Ability to Orgasm With a Partner

Where this myth derives from is unclear, though it’s safe to say female sexuality and self-stimulation has historically had a negative connotation. The truth is masturbation in no way, shape, or form affects your ability to orgasm with a partner.

Masturbation is that necessary “me time” that can help women figure out what they do and do not like. Sex with a partner is a different experience altogether, and while elements from each can be carried into the other, in terms of your ability to orgasm, one does not negatively impact the other. In fact, many experts think that masturbation can help women have stronger orgasms and increase their sexual sensitivity.

Myth: You Haven’t Had Great Sex if You Haven’t Had an Orgasm

The pressure women feel to orgasm (or to fake an orgasm) is very real. In the minds of many, if the woman doesn’t orgasm, the sex wasn’t great for her. This isn’t necessarily the case.

It’s no secret that achieving female orgasm is more complicated than male orgasm. For this reason, a woman might not orgasm every time she has sex, especially given that penetration alone likely won’t get her there. Ironically, feeling anxious about performing during partnered sex will actually make it much less likely that you’ll achieve orgasm.

The truth is, most women, when reflecting on great sex they’ve had, won’t refer to the experience as great because they climaxed. For women, there are many different elements to consider, and great sex for a woman can mean something different than great sex for a man. Women can, and often do, enjoy sex without orgasm.

Myth: Penetration Alone Leads to Orgasm

Basic, missionary-style penetration, while the norm for most sexual partners, is typically not enough, in and of itself, to stimulate an orgasm for a woman. While there are ways that penetration can be stimulating, it’s not always enough to spark an orgasm. Getting technical, the vagina is not the most sensitive part of the female anatomy.

Every woman is different and enjoys different things, which means that there is no “one size fits all” solution for having a female orgasm. When it comes down to it, you know what works for you, and if you don’t, experiment until you find something you like.

Myth: Using a Vibrator Repeatedly Makes it Less Likely You’ll Orgasm 

Most women that use vibrators have heard this one and might be surprised to hear it’s a myth. In fact, a survey of nearly 4,000 women by the Berman Women’s Wellness Center found that women who use vibrators reach orgasm during partnered, vibe-free sex easier than women who don’t.

Just as with anything in life, too much of something can become monotonous, which can happen with masturbation. To avoid this issue, simply change up your masturbation routine (perhaps by using different vibrators) so that you don’t get bored with your stimulation patterns. Regardless, your ability to orgasm won’t disappear on you.

The female orgasm is a powerful experience, but it’s also one that can be difficult to achieve. That being said, it’s important to separate fact from fiction and get familiar with your body. These four busted myths should put you on the right path to achieving orgasm—but remember, stimulation looks different for everyone. Only you know what will work for you, so don’t be afraid to experiment. The one common factor for all women is that sex should be fun and emjoyable!

The ever-elusive female orgasm is shrouded in mystery. While this is in part due to the fact that some women haven’t experienced an orgasm, this mysteriousness can also be attributed to a lack of knowledge regarding them, or the overall difficulty in achieving them. Regardless of the reasoning, myths are plentiful, so we took the time to bust a few of the most common for you.

Myth: Masturbation Affects Your Ability to Orgasm With a Partner

Where this myth derives from is unclear, though it’s safe to say female sexuality and self-stimulation has historically had a negative connotation. The truth is masturbation in no way, shape, or form affects your ability to orgasm with a partner.

Masturbation is that necessary “me time” that can help women figure out what they do and do not like. Sex with a partner is a different experience altogether, and while elements from each can be carried into the other, in terms of your ability to orgasm, one does not negatively impact the other. In fact, many experts think that masturbation can help women have stronger orgasms and increase their sexual sensitivity.

Myth: You Haven’t Had Great Sex if You Haven’t Had an Orgasm

The pressure women feel to orgasm (or to fake an orgasm) is very real. In the minds of many, if the woman doesn’t orgasm, the sex wasn’t great for her. This isn’t necessarily the case.

It’s no secret that achieving female orgasm is more complicated than male orgasm. For this reason, a woman might not orgasm every time she has sex, especially given that penetration alone likely won’t get her there. Ironically, feeling anxious about performing during partnered sex will actually make it much less likely that you’ll achieve orgasm.

The truth is, most women, when reflecting on great sex they’ve had, won’t refer to the experience as great because they climaxed. For women, there are many different elements to consider, and great sex for a woman can mean something different than great sex for a man. Women can, and often do, enjoy sex without orgasm.

Myth: Penetration Alone Leads to Orgasm

Basic, missionary-style penetration, while the norm for most sexual partners, is typically not enough, in and of itself, to stimulate an orgasm for a woman. While there are ways that penetration can be stimulating, it’s not always enough to spark an orgasm. Getting technical, the vagina is not the most sensitive part of the female anatomy.

Every woman is different and enjoys different things, which means that there is no “one size fits all” solution for having a female orgasm. When it comes down to it, you know what works for you, and if you don’t, experiment until you find something you like.

Myth: Using a Vibrator Repeatedly Makes it Less Likely You’ll Orgasm 

Most women that use vibrators have heard this one and might be surprised to hear it’s a myth. In fact, a survey of nearly 4,000 women by the Berman Women’s Wellness Center found that women who use vibrators reach orgasm during partnered, vibe-free sex easier than women who don’t.

Just as with anything in life, too much of something can become monotonous, which can happen with masturbation. To avoid this issue, simply change up your masturbation routine (perhaps by using different vibrators) so that you don’t get bored with your stimulation patterns. Regardless, your ability to orgasm won’t disappear on you.

The female orgasm is a powerful experience, but it’s also one that can be difficult to achieve. That being said, it’s important to separate fact from fiction and get familiar with your body. These four busted myths should put you on the right path to achieving orgasm—but remember, stimulation looks different for everyone. Only you know what will work for you, so don’t be afraid to experiment. The one common factor for all women is that sex should be fun and enjoyable!

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