Throughout life, our sex drives fluctuate. There will be times when it’s in full bloom and times when we want little to do with intercourse. Either scenario is normal, even if it doesn’t feel that way. If you’re going through a phase where your partner seems disinterested in having sex, know that you are likely not the reason. There are various reasons for an inactive sex drive – and that’s what we’re here to talk about today.
They Are Overwhelmed at Work
If your partner is giving all their time and attention to their career and work-related projects, their lack of interest in sex may be due to stress and the overwhelming pressure from their superiors and colleagues. In this case, the “mistress” is not another romantic partner; it’s their professional obligation. Check in with them and see what can be changed to get back on track.
They Feel Insecure About Their Body
Although this tends to be more common in women than men, both experience insecurities about their bodies, leading to an aversion to being naked and having sex. For women, wrinkles and stretch marks may develop due to normal aging, and weight gain from pregnancy can stick around after childbirth. If you think your partner’s diminished libido is due to their insecurities, reassure them that you love them for who they are and want to participate in a healthy sex life with them.
There May Be Tension in the Relationship
When there’s constant conflict, there’s often less sex. Here’s where communication comes in. The two of you have to be willing to open up to resolve any lingering disputes, apologize where necessary, and address any resentments. These may prompt some pretty difficult conversations, but in the end, you – and your sex life – should be better for it.