We get it: Breakups are hard. But there comes a time in every post-relationship situation when it’s time to let go of your ex. It might feel impossible at first, but you can get to a point where you don’t feel a tinge of pain when hearing their name or passing by a memorable place. Here are some tips for moving on from your ex.
Accepting that you are no longer in a relationship – and are not going to get back together – is the first step in letting go of an ex. It’s not helpful to think about how you could have done things differently or that there may be a chance for you in the future. Simply accepting that you are not meant for one another can give you peace and strength to move on.
Cut Off Contact
“Out of sight, out of mind.” It might be hard at first, but minimizing contact with your ex is another big step in the healing process. It’s difficult to move on from someone if they are still hitting up your phone.
Meet New People
Now, we don’t mean you should immediately jump into a new relationship. Instead, we mean making new friends with whom you can have fun. Nothing beats heartache more than a busy day with new friends.
Talk to Someone
As much as you want to keep it all to yourself, it might be helpful to talk to a friend or therapist about your pain. Letting out what you are feeling can make it easier for you to move on and put things into perspective.
Explore New Hobbies
One way to forget your ex is to try a new hobby – or rediscover a hobby that you enjoyed in the past. Putting your energy into a new activity like painting or gardening can be a distraction and help you redirect your thoughts into something enjoyable and productive.
Getting away from your everyday routine can take your mind off a breakup and expose you to new and exciting places, cultures, food, and activities. Plus, you can make new memories that don’t involve your ex.
Realizing that you are enough – that you don’t need another person to make you happy – is a big step in moving on from an ex. Know that your happiness lies within you. How can someone else love you if you don’t love yourself?
Do you have any tips for letting go of an ex? Share them with us in the comments below!