First things first: Feeling jealous at some point is normal. Most relationships experience it. So don’t feel like you have to put your SO in the dog house just because their jealousy issues are coming out to play. However, major jealousy issues can be unhealthy in a relationship. Nip them in the bud, or figure out how to manage them with these tips.
Get to the Bottom of It
Asking, “Why is my partner jealous?” may sound like an obvious first step, but oftentimes people don’t think about the reasons behind the jealousy; they just make assumptions or ignore the problem without working through it. And it’s not enough to ask yourself this question; you have to discuss it with your partner. Ask them what’s causing the jealousy. It could be a number of different reasons, some of which may be due to past relationships.
After the jealousy conversation, it should be a team effort to lessen the issue. Building trust is key – and the only way to do that effectively is to set ground rules that you can both adhere to without feeling resentful. For example, if your partner gets weary every time you come home late, make it a point to come home on time. If your partner needs open communication about what you’re doing (even if it’s errands on a Saturday morning), keep them in the loop. A little can go a long way.
Sprinkle in Some Additional Affection
Getting into a conversation about jealousy may be hard for you, but your SO may be experiencing fear, doubt, vulnerability, etc. It may be even more difficult for them to communicate why they feel jealous. So be generous with your affection. Touch, kiss, and offer words of affirmation. Your partner’s jealousy may not make sense to you, but showing your support is crucial.
Getting Over Jealousy Will Take Time
Jealousy can be daunting, but it gets better with time. As your relationship grows, your SO should feel more confident in your relationship. You have to be willing to give jealousy the time it needs to heal.
Don’t Bring in Negativity
Time may pass, and jealousy may dwindle, but that doesn’t mean it will disappear altogether. Be patient, and don’t give in to negativity. Instead, be available to discuss the situation further. A relapse is just like the initial involvement: Your partner may need you to talk through what’s happening. Your understanding and receptiveness will only make the bond grow stronger.
Note: If jealousy issues persist or get out of hand, professional help may be a solution. If the boundaries you set in your relationship are being crossed, consider whether you and your SO are a good fit.
How have you dealt with a partner’s jealousy issues? Share your tips with us in the comments below!