Weddings can be super fun, but if you’re involved in the bridal party, it can be time-consuming and expensive. When you weigh the pros with the cons, is it worth being a part of the couple’s special day? How do you politely decline a bridesmaid proposal? We have some insight.
Don’t Stall
Whatever you decide, don’t drag it out. It’s not fair to keep the bride waiting while you make your decision. Thank the bride for thinking of you, but also let her know that you need to get some more insight into cost and schedule. Most brides understand what they are asking of you – so don’t be nervous about this part. We’re pretty sure more than one potential bridesmaid will be asking the same questions!
When the time comes to tell her that you have put a lot of time into considering this role, but can’t be a bridesmaid at this time, start by reiterating how honored you are to be asked to be part of such a special occasion. Then, explain why you can’t be in the bridal party. If you’re willing, it doesn’t hurt to ask the bride if you can be a part of their special day in another way.
If You’re Still on the Fence – Be Open and Honest
If any other questions or concerns come to mind, (like what other responsibilities do they expect in this role), get them out of the way before signing up. It’s better to know what to expect than to be surprised later on.
If You’re Pregnant…
Whether you are pregnant or trying to get pregnant, it’s natural to decline a bridesmaid invitation. Explain to the bride that this is a time in your life when it’s difficult to plan ahead. The first trimester can be unpleasant and exhausting. And if you’re further along, alterations will be way too tricky to predict – and can be pricey.
If You’re Low on Cash…
Being a bridesmaid means paying for the dress, alterations, hair, makeup, shoes, accessories, bridal showers, bachelorette parties, gifts, and everything in between. If you’re not financially stable, it may be in your best interest to decline the offer.
If You Don’t Have Extra Time…
Being a bridesmaid means you have to be willing to dedicate your time to assist with planning, decorations, attending, shopping, etc. If you have a time-consuming job or a family, you may be unable to dedicate your time to a bridal party. The same applies to extracurriculars and hobbies. You may have prior obligations that interfere with being a devoted bridesmaid – and the bride should be able to understand that it’s just not in the cards for you right now.