Hey, we get it – we see the confused look on people’s faces in a bar or nightclub when we order our non-alcoholic beverage of choice. But being the sober friend is never a bad gig, and we’re going to teach you how to master the art.
Be Up Front
There’s beauty in authenticity and honesty, especially regarding sobriety. There’s no point lying because there is nothing to be ashamed of. Tell them you don’t like the taste or how it makes you feel, or that you’ve been sober for X days, weeks, months, years, etc., whatever your story may be.
Host a Q&A
Okay, not really, but be prepared for a question-and-answer session. People tend to be curious about why you’re hanging out with people who drink at a place that mainly serves alcohol. You don’t have to answer every question; and if you find it’s time to move to the next conversation, feel free to change the subject. You don’t owe anyone any explanation.
Look at the Perks
Being the sober friend means you don’t have to worry about finding a ride home or waking up with a hangover. There’s also zero chance of public embarrassment you won’t remember the next day – and that’s always a good thing!
Plan an Escape Route
There may come a time when you aren’t having much fun, and that’s okay. Sober or not, sometimes, being home is better. You can absolutely leave and not give an excuse, but if you feel like you need a reason, tell the group you’re tired, have an early morning, or don’t feel well, and head home for the night.
Set DD Boundaries
Don’t be shocked when your friends want you to be the designated driver. While some people might not mind, just because you’re sober doesn’t mean your life should revolve around everyone else’s social calendar. Talk to your friends if you feel like they’re taking advantage of you. Offer to help call them an Uber or set firm boundaries about when and where you will be their DD.
Do you have any tips for being the sober friend? Share them with us in the comments below!