Falling in love seems effortless, Making the magic last forever takes work and commitment. There’s a secret to happy, long-lasting relationships. Successful couples don’t try to make love last a lifetime, but rather they focus on one day at a time. Instead of worrying about a lifetime, they work to create an emotional attachment for both partners. Long lasting lovers build trust by communicating authentically and staying open to vulnerability. They avoid silly mistakes that can ruin great relationships. Make yours a relationship you want to say yes to each day. Here are six secrets to make love last.
- See the truth in your relationship.
Now is the time to really figure out the truth about your relationship. Sort through your feelings and thoughts while you think about your partner’s feelings and thoughts. The things that make you flinch are liable to undermine your relationship in the long run. Don’t let them linger and sabotage your romance.
- Don’t assume he’s just like you.
He may not want the same things you want. Assuming his feelings are just like yours is one of the biggest mistakes you can make in close relationships. You may want to deny that he’s very different from you.
- Tell him what you need.
Tell him the thoughts and feelings that you think he would want to know. You are responsible for communicating your needs and desires. Be open and honest, and work on lowering your private barrier. If you want a hug, tell him. He is free then to act based on his own needs and desires. Don’t expect that he owes you a hug.
- Get attuned emotionally.
Listen to the emotions underneath his words as you listen to what he is saying. Is he stressed or joyful? Frazzled or sad? Do you hear frustration or pleasure, confusion or happiness? Pay attention to the tone of his voice and watch his body language. Getting in tune with him emotionally will help you better understand and respond in ways that promote happy and long-lasting relationships.
- Schedule relationship checkups.
Talk about what you appreciate most about each other. Discuss what you can improve in the relationship, and talk about how you can make those improvements. Finish by expressing your gratitude that he takes part in the relationship checkup. Make these checkups a regular habit. For instance, you may want to schedule them every two or three weeks.
- Trust others.
How much do you trust him to act in ways that meet your expectations of him? Research shows the key to happy, lasting relationships is trust. You can build up trust b showing vulnerability and openness, sharing secrets, and being generous in offering to compromise. If he proves to be trustworthy, then you can feel confident in committing to the relationship. If not, reconsider your own level of commitment. Without trust and commitment, the relationship probably won’t last.
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